In 1995 a novel came out called The Horse Whisperer. Three years later, it was made into a feature film starring Robert Redford. Redford’s character seemed to have a special gift for communicating with horses, thus the moniker.
How to Become the Customer Whisperer
Affirmations Don’t Work (And How To Fix It)
Did you hear that collective gasp?
An affirmation is a declaration that something is true and declarations, properly formed, can be very powerful and effective at get you from point A to point B in your life.
So am I trying to say that The Secret and Norman Vincent Peale and Zig Ziglar and {insert your favorite self-help guru here} got it all wrong about affirmations? Not exactly.
It Is Time For Life-Sustaining Entrepreneurship
I have been racking my brain lately. I am seeking a label, a simple phrase to describe something. That something is:
Entrepreneurs doing business sustainably, scalably, with integrity, and with the greater good in mind and at heart
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Tagged with: entrepreneur, entrepreneurs, entrepreneurship
Posted in Deny Limitation, Intention, Purpose
Posted in Deny Limitation, Intention, Purpose
Arriving At Your Purpose
Do you know your purpose? The word “know” probably doesn’t go far enough. Do you totally get your purpose, do you intuitively grok your purpose? If you aren’t answering with a resounding “YES!”, then you likely fall into one of two camps: 1) you are mystified as to what your purpose could be; or 2) you wish X was your purpose but it just doesn’t feel genuine. …
Tagged with: Meaning of life, Nelson Mandela, Philosophy, Purpose, Richard Branson, Saturday Night Live, Steve Martin, Wikipedia
Posted in Purpose
Posted in Purpose
How To Get Everything You Want And Need
Words matter. They have an imprint on them, a richness of meaning that is unstated but understood. So it is very important that we use words correctly. By “correctly” I don’t mean correct in a moral sense but rather in a communicative sense. If the point of a communication is to be understood, then we must make proper use of words and use the words that are proper so as to get our point across. …
Why Judgment Isn’t Working For You
Jesus said (if you use a good translation), “Stop judging.” Some translations would say, “Do not judge.” But that doesn’t really capture the original Greek. The point is, you are already judging, so cut it out already. Your next thought may well be that this is not possible. If I don’t judge, how will I get through life? Won’t I get abused by the ne’er-do-wells? Even without that, don’t I have to judge whether or not that truck is going to stop before it gets to the crosswalk and mows me down? …
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Posted in Blame and Judgment
Posted in Blame and Judgment
Why Forgiveness Is A Stop Gap Measure
In the medical field, there are two radically different focuses. One is to treat, the other is to cure. Treatment involves mitigation of symptoms, management of pain. Curing involves removal of the root cause of the affliction, eradication of the disease. When we are diseased, most of us settle for treatment. We learn to live with our disease. Look at that statement. “Live with…”: It’s like a welcome houseguest. “…our disease…”: We take ownership of the disease and it becomes our own. We do not easily give up the things that we own. …
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Posted in Blame and Judgment
Posted in Blame and Judgment
Why All Your Rules Aren’t Working
We live in a world ruled by laws. There are international laws, federal laws, state laws, county laws, and city laws. On top of that, many of these laws have lots of rules for how they are supposed to be enforced. In other settings, the authority to make law doesn’t exist. So they go straight to the rules. …
Business Development Vs. Personal Development — Do You Have To Choose?
If both business growth and personal growth are requirements for you, how can you manage to get everything you need? This video examines what to do when you want it all.
Why Is My Email Inbox So Full?
You’re getting a crushing volume of email. I’m not. Do you want to know why? Better yet, would you like to be in my shoes?
Something big is going to
happen at Vera Claritas
in the next 28 days.
It all begins with a four video series.
You have probably had the experience of words getting you into trouble with others. But words even get you into trouble with you. This short 5:30 video is looking for trouble!
What Perspective Is For
Perspective is a way of recognizing what something looks like from here. This is not the same thing as what something is. What something “is” is the truth about a thing. A perspective is not the truth per se but is rather a view, an assumption, an opinion. …
Never Suffer Again
Pain. Ouch. No one likes it. Many will do anything to avoid it. Some ignore it and a few actually seek it out. Why such differing reactions to this thing called pain? …
Don’t Bother Trying
Are you trying? Are you trying really, really hard? We often excuse ourselves because we tried. Worse yet, we frequently set our excuses up in advance by determining that we will try to accomplish something rather than by determining to accomplish it. The odd thing is that by trying we call a failure an accomplishment. After all, we succeeded at trying. It counts as a win even when we fail. …
How Predictability Is Robbing You (and the World) of Your True Gifts
You are a hard working individual. As a result you have stopped being merely competent, you have moved into the realm of excellence. Congratulations! No doubt you are receiving praise and accolades for your superior performances. In fact, people have come to count on such performances, and so have you.
Running with the Popular Can Get You Into Trouble
Aphorisms, maxims and pithy sayings abound, especially in social media. These pat statements seem to be true. Smart, accomplished or well known people are attributed with saying them. They get repeated with regularity so others must think they are valuable and valid. Shouldn’t you listen to them and accept them?
What I Would Say To Tony Robbins
This is important.
I intend to talk to Tony Robbins. Yes, that Tony Robbins. Here’s what I would say to Tony Robbins if I could get past his handlers. Don’t worry everybody, I love Tony. It’s just that lately he has succumbed to some very reasonable people and they must be stopped! …
There’s No Such Thing As A Comfort Zone
We acknowledge zones all the time: hospital zones, school zones, time zones, etc. Most of the time these zones aren’t inherently in existence, we created them for some purpose. They are convenient or safe or make for some kind of structural ease.
Why Listening To Credible People Is Costing You
When we find ourselves in need of advice, guidance or even simply information, we commonly seek out familiar confidants. We start with the people we already know and trust. They might be someone we know on a personal level. Or it could be we know them on a professional level or just know of their reputation in a certain area of expertise.
Sometimes Your Clarity Needs A Resurrection
You have probably had a moment when you were crystal clear — you knew you were going to close the deal…you were certain this was the right exit…you could feel she was going to go out with you. (If you have worked with me I can guarantee you’ve had such an experience.)
You Can’t Think Your Way Out of This
Ah, Reason.
We have beknighted reason — and with good cause. It towers above lesser states of being, states like guilt or apathy, grief or fear, anger or pride. It even surpasses some more desirable states like courage, willingness, and acceptance. Yes, being reasonable is a great place to be.
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Posted in The Trap of Reason
Posted in The Trap of Reason
Gain Freedom From The Tyrants (Otherwise Known As Your Body And Mind)
Remember that old Public Service Announcement, “A mind is a terrible thing to waste”?
The mind has been elevated in the opinion of society to being the most important part of you. In fact, many presume the mind to be you.
Look At What Lance Armstrong Has Done For You
To no one’s surprise, Lance Armstrong has finally confessed to using illegal substances and banned methods to boost his racing performances.
The reactions have spanned the gamut from compassion and pity to venom and disgust. I won’t venture to quantify it but the hatred out there is wide and deep. What about you? Are you personally ticked off about it? Are you glad he is getting stripped of his medals and titles and is receiving public humiliation and scorn?
The Sustainable Way to Have Everything You Intend
People love to have things. Let’s face it, so do we. Things are useful, comforting, and pleasing. The problem is that this love affair with things commonly gets overdone. Even though it is common, a passion to own stuff is looked down upon by many, even those who are knee deep in it themselves. As a result, it is a popular view to condemn worldly people as rampantly materialistic.
The Connection Between Complaining And Success, Satisfaction And Peace
People may not have a clear picture of what they want but they are vivid about what they don’t want. Once the negative {whatever} has been labeled, they often proceed to being vocal about their dissatisfaction and disapproval of how things are.
