Words matter. They have an imprint on them, a richness of meaning that is unstated but understood. So it is very important that we use words correctly. By “correctly” I don’t mean correct in a moral sense but rather in a communicative sense. If the point of a communication is to be understood, then we must make proper use of words and use the words that are proper so as to get our point across.
Some words that are rich with meaning are: want, need, desire, and intent. The first three can be dangerous to use because of their implications. For instance, if I say, “I want a cracker”, the meaning may very well be that I am in want of a cracker. By so stating I am manifesting a condition of want. The same thing happens if I say, “I need a cracker”. I manifest a state of need. The same with desire. The end in each case is a state of want, a state of need, or a state of desire. They are already complete. In fact, if I get a cracker I actually lose my stated condition because I am no longer in want or need of a cracker.
Intent is a different game. When I intend something, it is incomplete until it is fulfilled. That lack of completion is compelling and it drives an outcome. I can be in want forever but an intention must wrap up. So how do we apply this? I might say, “I intend to get a cracker”. The quality of my intent will now be demonstrated by how much I am willing to do to turn my intent into reality. Am I willing to get off the couch? Walk to the kitchen? Drive to the store? Pay someone for a box of crackers? Invent a new kind of cracker?
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Anthony Robbins has become famous, wealthy, and influential by teaching millions of people that the language you use is one of the key factors in the life you create. So wean yourself off of wanting, needing, and desiring. Move toward intending as your “go-to” state. Let us know how applying this lesson progresses for you and what you learn along the way by leaving a comment below.
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